Is it proper manners to have multiple showers?
I recently attended a housewarming-shower for friends who bought a home. Now, they are planning a very small wedding, for which I'm not invited, but expected to help host several showers. I feel used. Am I expected to also give a gift at all of these showers?
Dazed & Confused
Reply by The Polite One
Dear Dazed & Confused,
You are correct to feel used, as this is excessive and greedy behavior. First off, the housewarming is not a shower. The homeowner hosts this and provides the party and gifts are optional. Secondly, this couple should never request a shower and should only accept two, for which family shouldn't be involved in hosting. It often becomes a greedy feeding frenzy. Thirdly, only those invited to the wedding may be invited to a shower--only one shower.
Feel free to skip this. If possible, it would be beneficial to inform them that you've read that this is not polite behavior and want to spare them embarrassment.
The Polite One