Cash Gifts On Invitations?
Dear
Polite One,
Is
it socially acceptable to request money as a wedding gift right on the
invitation?
Wishing
Dear
Wishing,
No! Never!
In fact, gifts are never mentioned on invitations, even if we don’t want
any. Many couples may be confused about this rule since store
personnel tends to provide enclosures specifically designed to list registry
information. These are a huge no-no and are created to benefit
the store, which has no interest in how the information might be viewed by
guests. And requesting cash is any manner is viewed extremely
negatively and as greedy.
If
we truly only prefer cash, we convey this message through word of
mouth. We could also list a wedding saving’s account and registries
on our wedding website—never on the first page. This information is
never included with the invitation.
Be
prepared, though, to receive few gifts if requesting cash. Many
guests find this repulsive.
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
When Is a Thank-You Note Late?
Dear
Polite One,
What
is the maximum length of time after a wedding before the thank-you note is
considered “late”?
Late
Dear
Late,
All
thank-you notes should be handwritten as soon as the gift is received, even if
it is before the wedding. There is no grace period.
No
gift should be used before the wedding.
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
Thank You Gift for Bridal Shower Host?
Dear
Polite One,
Is it a must for the bride to buy a "thank you" gift for the person who gives her
a shower?
Thank
you!
Thankful
Dear
Thankful,
Typically,
yes. Usually, this is flowers or something similar. For me, it would be a bottle of wine. When choosing a gift, consider the preferences
of the receiver.
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
Attended but No Gift
Dear
Polite One,
If
someone comes to your wedding, but does not bring a gift, should you still send
them a thank you card?
Grrr...
Dear
Grrr...
You
are only obligated to handwrite thank you notes for those who give you
gifts. Please send these as soon as you
receive your gifts—snail mail, not email.
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
Belated Thank You Notes
Dear
Polite One,
I
was married a month ago and have not had a chance to send Thank You notes. How
late is too late to send them?
Belated
Dear Belated,
Even
though it is best to send our thank you notes as soon as the gifts arrive,
there is no date that is too late—time to get busy.
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
Please
Read
Rules: thank you
notes, sympathy letters, wedding enclosures...
Wedding
Correspondence Q & A: Including Registry Info?
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