If
couples care what their guests think, the number one wedding invitation rule is:
never ever include gift registry information!
Additionally,
we never list gifts on invitations, even if we don’t want any. Requesting cash, in any manner? Yikes!
This just may be the talk of the next few years. It’s typically viewed as clueless and crass.
We may convey this message through word of mouth or on a wedding website, but never on the first page.
How
to include registry info in the announcement?
Dear Polite One,
My fiancé and I are
planning a destination wedding to an all-inclusive resort in Jamaica to save
money. We are only inviting immediate family and a couple of our
closest friends. Since we are planning this wedding on a shoestring
budget and we don't need anything else since we've lived together for many
years, we have registered for our wedding/honeymoon.
I want to send
announcements of our wedding/reception to those not invited to let them know
where we are registered. After all, we have given them all gifts for their life
events. And this should be a lot cheaper for everyone since there
won't be a shower, so they only have to provide one gift. We are out
so much money and shouldn't miss out just because we're not hosting a
traditional wedding.
Wants gifts
Dear Wants gifts,
Please do not do this as
it is not appropriate or polite. Announcements announce a wedding
that has already taken place. Gift information or registries are never
included. Gifts are not expected from those not invited even if you
have given to these people in the past. A gift is something people
give because they want to. If someone asks, you may inform them of
your registry. This includes those invited to your
wedding. After all, registry information is not included with
invitations either.
Many find these types of
registries as presumptuous, as you two are expected to pay for all elements of
your wedding/reception/honeymoon. So, please do not be upset if no
one contributes. One huge issue here is that gifts are given for the
wedding, not the reception or honeymoon. This announcement might be
viewed as greedy and insulting like “None of you are important enough to invite
to my wedding, but I want you to pay for it.”
Sincerely,
The Polite One
Please
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