Benchmark Anniversary and Vow Renewal Tips

Every Wedding Anniversary is a Special Event

Treat your honey to a quiet evening of just the two of you.
That is the best present.

Milestone Anniversary Couples Recreating Their Wedding

She often wears her wedding gown.
Guests may have negative opinions if the wife wears a formal wedding gown not her own.
The renewal ceremony should be a private affair and simpler than a wedding.

Theme Event Exception

When wife wishes to plan a themed vow renewal, she may wear a special dress. But use good judgment.
Guests typically view this positively when the overall look of the event appears fun, and theme-based.
White dresses are appropriate. White symbolizes joy and is not reserved for a bride.

Please No

Bachelor or Bachelorette Party

This celebrates the last night of freedom and as a married couple, this happened long ago.

Showers

Originally, this was meant to shower a young bride with household items to begin her married life.

Attendants

...unless this is a recreation of your wedding.
Children and grandchildren may walk with the wife and stand with the couple.

Please Do

Plan Well

The couple typically hosts.
Involve your children and other family members.
Parents are not financially involved.
Incorporate personalized elements based on your love story and life together.
Write custom vows, exchange new rings, and a special bouquet.
Wear any color you wish.

Gifts

This is not considered a gift-giving situation, except for milestone anniversaries.
Do not register or mention gifts. Doing so changes the focus to gaining gifts and not on your reaffirmation of love.
If for a benchmark anniversary, many may want to give a gift. Thus, you may write, “No gifts” on the invitation.

Let’s Party!

Surprise! It is appropriate to host a reception following a vow renewal. It can be like a wedding reception in appearance. Still, the focus should be on your continuing life as a married couple.

Please Read

Encore Wedding Planning and Gift Q & A

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Comments

Bride Doesn’t Wants Alcohol or Dances at Reception

Dear Polite One, I've always dreamt that my wedding reception would be alcohol and dance-free - except for the first dance of the bride and groom. When running the idea past a few people they seemed shocked that I've taken out both of these elements and are making me doubt my idea . The wedding will be in the evening, and then dinner. Is there a steadfast rule that there must be alcohol and dance at a wedding? Isn't a nice dinner enough? And what things could be added to make it fun for the guests? Thank you, Visitor from Yorkton Saskatchewan Dear Yorkton Saskatchewan, People typically expect alcohol with their dinner at evening wedding receptions . So, it would probably be better if this were held earlier in the day. Dancing isn’t that important. However, it is better to skip all dances, rather than just the one dance with you. That may seem awkward. The only hard and fast rule is that we, as hosts, offer our guests what is typically expected at

Anti-Clueless Advice: What to Wear and What Gifts to Give

How to Decode the Dress Code and to Give the Right Gift Many questions I receive as an etiquette consultant are from wedding guests. Guests are especially concerned with what they should wear and what they should give as gifts . All who contact me are deeply worried about committing any type of faux pas, as many weddings tend to be surrounded by drama these days. For example, one guest shared that the bride called fuming that the gift she shipped to the bride's home was inadequate, so she returned it to the store for cash—true story. With crazy, hurtful behavior like that, it is no wonder wedding guests are apprehensive about wedding guest protocol. How do we know what to wear to a wedding? Wedding invitations are supposed to help guests understand the formality of a wedding. Often, this is not the case. Here is a real-life example: a guest received an invitation of heavy-weight paper indicating a formal wedding, but the location listed was a neighborhood park.

Should the Wedding Gift Cover the Cost of the Plate?

Hi Polite One, I need help. My step-cousin recently married. She is close with my parents, but not so much with me. Not because of anything bad, we just sort of lost touch, we just never see each other. In fact, I only see her once a year at Christmas. She comes from a wealthy family and her wedding was extremely lavish. I'm guessing minimum $300-$500 per plate. I was invited to the wedding with a guest and was concerned because I barely had the money to attend the wedding ( dress , shoes, etc.), let alone give a gift. My family is all about monetary gifts (always cash or check). My parents were insisting that I needed to cover the cost of my plate which was more than 2 weeks of my pay. I wanted to decline because I couldn't afford to go and was embarrassed. My parents insisted that it was family and that was not an option. I was told to do whatever I needed to do to get a dress, shoes, and cash gift to cover my plate. Because of the pressure, I responded that I would

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