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Benchmark Anniversary and Vow Renewal Tips

Anniversary couple and vow renewal tips

Every Wedding Anniversary is a Special Event

  • Treat your honey to a quiet evening of just the two of you.
  • That is the best present.

Milestone Anniversary Couples Recreating Their Wedding

  • She often wears her wedding gown. 
  • Guests may have negative opinions if the wife wears a formal wedding gown not her own.
  • The renewal ceremony should be a private affair and simpler than a wedding.

Theme Event Exception

  • When wife wishes to plan a themed vow renewal, she may wear a special dress.  But use good judgment.  
  • Guests typically view this positively when the overall look of the event appears fun, and theme-based. 
  • White dresses are appropriate.  White symbolizes joy and is not reserved for a bride.

Please No

Bachelor or Bachelorette Party 

  • This celebrates the last night of freedom and as a married couple, this happened long ago.    

Showers

  • Originally, this was meant to shower a young bride with household items to begin her married life.  

Attendants

  • ...unless this is a recreation of your wedding. 
  • Children and grandchildren may walk with the wife and stand with the couple. 

Please Do

Plan Well

  • The couple typically hosts.
  • Involve your children and other family members.
  • Parents are not financially involved. 
  • Incorporate personalized elements based on your love story and life together. 
  • Write custom vows, exchange new rings, and a special bouquet.
  • Wear any color you wish. 

Gifts

  • This is not considered a gift-giving situation, except for milestone anniversaries.  
  • Do not register or mention gifts.  Doing so changes the focus to gaining gifts and not on your reaffirmation of love. 
  • If for a benchmark anniversary, many may want to give a gift.  Thus,  you may write, “No gifts” on the invitation. 

Let’s Party!

Surprise!  It is appropriate to host a reception following a vow renewal.  It can be like a wedding reception in appearance.  Still, the focus should be on your continuing life as a married couple.  

Please Read

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