Should we have a big or small wedding?
Dear Polite One,
We are both in our forties and I've been married before, but he hasn't. I have a pre-teen daughter and he has no children. What type of ceremony is appropriate for our situation? Since I had all the trimmings the first time, should we this time? He really would like a traditional all-out wedding/reception.
Interested in Propriety
Dear Interested in Propriety,
Go for it! This is a new beginning for both of you as a couple. Celebrate and enjoy it. There are few restrictions for encore/second-time brides these days. Elements to be avoided would be a blusher veil and your father escorting you down the aisle. However, your daughter would be a great choice of escort.
Tossing your garter and bouquet is probably not a great idea as well. And because you would be hosting, not your parents, you and your husband would be at the head of your reception line.
Other than that, the sky is the limit. You can have the wedding that you desire, register for gifts, include a bridal party, all of it.
If this were a 3rd, 4th... wedding, to some it might appear gauche to wear a traditional gown though.
Sincerely,
The Polite One
What is a proper encore wedding gift?
Dear Polite One,
While
not a first wedding for either of my friends, they are getting married after
living together for a decade. Since she is an avid cook, I considered new
knives but am not sure if this is considered a proper wedding gift.
Best
Friend
Dear
Best Friend,
In
the past, knives were considered inappropriate.
It’s crazy by our standards, but people actually believed that the gift
of knives meant you wanted to “sever” the relationship. Thankfully, we are beyond that
silliness.
You
are a very generous friend. It is a great gift. One, I believe she will
love.
Sincerely,
The Polite One
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