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Do hosts give a shower gift?

Woman wondering

Dear Polite One,

A few of us have decided to host a wedding shower for our friend – encore bride – who is planning a small, informal wedding ceremony for immediate family only. Do we hosts give the bride a shower gift?

Hosting

Dear Hosting,

We have some issues here.  Number one, those who gave her gifts for her former weddings are not obligated to give this time.  Number two, and most importantly, a shower isn’t proper for this couple.  Only those invited to the wedding may be invited to the shower, but not all guests should be invited. That is asking each guest for two wedding gifts.

Hosts give shower gifts, but typically, these are group gifts when there is more than one host.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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