How to ask for honeymoon cash?

Dear Polite One,

My mother is hosting my shower for which I want to receive only cash gifts. We are registered but have everything thing that we need, except spending money for our honeymoon. How can we word it in the invitations? We do not want it to sound rude.

Thanks,

Needs Green

Dear Needs Green,

Cash is not an appropriate shower gift, as these gifts are to be opened in front of the guests. It's part of the gift-giving shower ritual. Plus, there is no way to ask guests for honeymoon cash politely. Perhaps opt for a gift-less shower if you don't need things.

If no one knows about the shower yet, it is best to decline your mother's offer to host. It is considered a social faux pas for family to host.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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