How to dress for a wedding as "the second wife"?

Dear Polite One,

I am the "second wife" of a dear man who was divorced for four years before we began seeing each other. My husband and I are attending a wedding where most of the guests are his old friends and family who were very close to his first wife. It's very uncomfortable since they tend to mention her every time I see them.

Fold into this toxic mess the fact that the wedding is in a trendy part of LA after 6pm. The wedding and reception will be held in a restaurant, so I don't think it will be very formal. Obviously, however, I need to look stunning.

The Second Wife

Dear Second Wife,

I'm sorry these people can't seem to think of anything new to talk about. It is hurtful and most realize it. Just try reminding yourself that you don't live with these people and yours is a good life. I call it "Playing the duck." Water rolls off a duck's back. It's best when in difficult situations like this. We try not to allow it to affect us.

For your attire, choose a cocktail dress you feel great wearing. Something along the lines of the little black dress would be perfect. Stay away from anything too bright, red, and strapless dresses.

The Polite One

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