Registry Info in Announcements for Our Small Wedding in Brussels?

Dear Polite One,

We plan to be married in Brussels where we live right now. All my family lives in the US and can't make it to the wedding. So, ours will be a very small civil ceremony. How and when do we send announcements to my family/friends in the US and his family here? It is very costly to cash foreign checks and to ship gifts here, so we will have a registry here. Do we include this information in the announcement?

Small Wedding in Brussels

Dear Small Wedding in Brussels,

Send your announcements after the wedding, but these are meant just to announce. We never mention gifts or registries in these as it would be very impolite. It may appear as if you are begging for gifts from people not good enough to invite to a wedding. This information is not sent with reception invitations either. You could definitely register though. If someone wishes to give you a gift, they will ask where you are registered.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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