It
seems that we all have strong feelings about what a wedding
should be. Many feel that it is the most
important day of a couple’s life. Well,
it may be the most important day, so far, in a couple’s life. But it is just another day for everyone
else.
Because
this is true, we must plan carefully not only focusing on our wedding but also focusing attention on our guests. After all, we are hosts to our guests.
Please Note
Parents
are no longer financially responsible for their children’s weddings. This also means that the wedding is no longer
a
social event for parents.
How to
Invite Guests to a Wedding in Vegas With No Reception?
Dear Polite One,
We
will be getting married in Las Vegas and want to send out invitations to a
select small group of people, as they have indicated that they would like to
come. This is only for a wedding (no reception).
How
do you word this sort of invitation?
Keep in mind that if anyone should want to come that they would have to pay for
themselves.
Las
Vegas Wedding
Dear Las Vegas Wedding,
This
could be as formal or informal as you wish. You could verbally invite
them as well. But a standard wedding invitation is fine. Just list
Vegas as the location. On a separate paper, include information about
accommodations as an enclosure.
If
you are inviting them, it would only be polite to offer them something
such as a dinner
or welcome cocktail. It isn’t polite to invite others are not offer them
something. Also, if all of you do go out for dinner, it would be assumed
that you would pay because this is the polite thing to do. So, please
keep this in mind when inviting.
Most
sincerely,
The
Polite One
Bridal Couple Wants Guests to Provide Reception Dinner!
Dear Polite One,
I
have friends marrying soon and they have done something that I have never seen,
and it has upset the groom's parents tremendously. On their wedding invitations,
they have asked the guests to bring a dish to pass. Isn't this a definite
no-no? They are paying for a DJ and the groom's mother feels that if they can
do that, then they can afford to feed their guests. I think this is causing
some very bad feelings and I was hoping you could give me some advice.
Worried
Dear Worried,
This
is unfortunate. Nothing like this should ever be printed on an invitation.
Plus… Yikes! Asking for food from your guests? This is in very poor
taste. There is a very simple rule for all entertaining: you invite, you
pay. We only host the party we can afford to host. Hopefully, they
didn’t mention their registry or gift preferences on these as well.
It
is best for the mothers
not to become involved. It really is none of her business, even if she is
contributing. The damage has been done and these comments cannot prevent
them from making this mistake. At this point, she would only seem
judgmental. It is unfortunate the children didn’t ask anyone for advice
or at least read about proper etiquette before planning this. They just may be embarrassed when they hear
what others think.
Most
sincerely,
The
Polite One
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--I
was informed later that the couple did include their gift registry information
in their invitations. Very
unfortunate.
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