Dear Polite One,
My
daughter is getting married. My wife is sending out the invitations
for our guests and is including a co-worker. This married co-worker informed
my wife before she received the invitation that her incapacitated husband would
not be attending so she is inviting her nephew so that they could drink
together.
First,
the wedding is very costly. Second, I told my wife
that this response is totally unacceptable and that proper etiquette is to not
invite anyone else in her husband’s place. Do you agree?
Containing My Anger
Dear Containing My Anger,
The
first breach was to invite the coworker. This isn’t your wife’s wedding
even if you are paying for it. Parents are no longer financially
responsible for their children’s weddings. This also means that the
wedding is no longer a social event for the parents. They don’t invite.
So, this was the first mistake. If your daughter gave you a portion of
the guest list, it is appropriate to invite whomever you wish to invite if
these people are also close to your daughter.
Spouses
are always invited. She could bring someone else instead of her husband
if she was allowed a guest, which is proper etiquette. It wasn’t
appropriate for her to say what she did though. That was in poor taste.
Most
sincerely,
The
Polite One
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