What is the Proper Monetary Amount for a Wedding Gift?

Dear Polite One,

I am 27. My brother, 29, and his fiancée are getting married in a few months. Traditionally, what is an acceptable amount of money to give as a wedding gift?

Strapped for Cash

Dear Strapped for Cash,

There is no traditional appropriate amount. One amount may seem generous to some and yet lacking to another. So, money is not a great gift. In truth, I find it inappropriate, but I'm from California.

Perhaps you could purchase something from their registry or give them something you think they will like.

Most sincerely,

The Polite One

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