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Ring and Wedding Speech Advice

In wedding planning, there are a myriad of questions.  Some are easy to answer, some are intuitive and some...well, it’s best to call upon an expert.  I am here to answer these three unique questions and offer some sage advice.

Deliver a Speech to Remember

There are books with plenty of ideas on perfect speeches and are worth a read.

Anyone who speaks should keep it short and sweet.  Focus on your relationship with the couple and their love story.  This is not a time to play the comedian. 

Best Man and Maid of Honor

  • The speech should be short and sweet.
  • It should reflect on your relationship and the couple. 
  • Don't mention the bachelor, bachelorette, or any other potentially embarrassing events or moments. 

Parents

  • Avoid embarrassing your child.
  • The speech should be short and reflective of your love and theirs. 
  • Try to incorporate your support of the marriage.

Must I accept the other woman’s ring?

Dear Polite One,

Although, I understand it's proper etiquette to return the engagement ring when the wedding/engagement is called off, what happens to the ring afterward? My boyfriend wants to give me a ring he gave to someone else—she called it off.  He feels that the ring carries his love to whomever he gives it.  I, on the other hand, feels that the ring symbolizes the love for her and their relationship. I am extremely interested in what etiquette surrounds it.

Wants Own Ring 

Dear Wants Own Ring, 

It is inappropriate and impolite to give a woman a ring that was intended for another. You are correct that the ring was meant for her and should be sold or given away—not given to you.  If he has any questions when he pops the question, encourage him to come to me. 

Best wishes for a bright future. 

Sincerely, 

The Polite One

May I use my grandmother’s ring?

Dear Polite One,

I am getting married in October of 2006.  My grandmother passed away almost 25 years ago.  I am saddened knowing that she will not be here for this special day.  My grandmother was engaged to be married but did not, so she never wore her rings.  It is my wish to use her wedding bands for our wedding.  My father has given me the rings to do so, but my mother has told me that it is not proper and that I should at least purchase our own set for daily wear.  Please help out with the etiquette in this situation! 

Dear Honoring Grandmother,

This is a nice tribute to your grandmother.  It is appropriate to use them as these would be considered ‘heirloom’ rings. 

Sincerely, 

The Polite One

May I wear the ring after the engagement is canceled?

Dear Polite One,

May I wear my engagement ring on my right hand if I am no longer engaged?

Free

Dear Free, 

Although it is more appropriate to return the ring, you may wear it on your right hand if you cannot return it.  

Sincerely, 

The Polite One

Please Read

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