The
purpose of an invitation to a wedding is to invite, with the main objective of ensuring
guests know the who, what, when, and where of the event. Thus, it can be made by word of mouth, by phone,
or by email.
Although
this invitation is much the same as any other invitation, it is more than just
a simple invitation. It is a visual
statement before the guest even reads the words. Somewhat like a logo, conveying
the formality and tone of your event through the formality of the paper, letter
font, and style. The more formal your
wedding, the more formal the invitation.
With
that in mind, it wouldn’t be prudent to invite your guests via email, phone, or
word of mouth to formal weddings.
Note
If
you choose to invite guests for informal weddings via email, it is best to list
a land address for those uncomfortable with email.
Q & A: Wedding Invitation Interview
Q: Rebecca,
let’s touch on invitations first. Today, we do a lot of communicating
electronically, is it acceptable to send invitations via email?
A: Email
is a wonderful tool for instant simultaneous communication between multiple
people. And it can be used tastefully for an informal
wedding. Still, it isn’t appropriate for more formal events.
Q: How
soon before the wedding should the invitations be mailed?
A: We
used to advise couples – and this should be a couple’s activity – to send
invitations 6-8 weeks prior to their wedding. However, we are so
spread out today, with loved ones living in different states and
countries. So, the new standard is no less than 8
weeks. For a destination wedding, send save the dates 12-6 months
prior is best.
Friend Added Her Own Guests
Dear
Polite One,
My
invitation was addressed to my friend and a guest. The response card returned with 4 people,
rather than just the two! What's the best way to handle this?
Panicking
Dear
Panicking,
Ouch! Unfortunately, this is becoming more and more
common because many do not know how to be good guests. It is also unfortunate that the only way to
deal with this is for someone close to you to contact them and verbally inform
them that only those listed on the invitation are invited.
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
Guests Didn’t Confirm Attendance
Dear
Polite One,
Even
though a response card was supplied, invited guests did not respond to my
formal wedding invitation. Should we
call them to find out if they will come? Or can we assume that they're not
coming?
Fingers
Crossed
Dear
Fingers Crossed,
Never
assume. It seems that many guests simply
do not know how to be good guests. Unfortunately,
you may have to ask someone close to call for you, as it is viewed as impolite
for the couple to do so.
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
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