Dear Polite One,
We
decided on a destination wedding due to finances. But I'm not sure
if it is truly a destination wedding since it is near us and many of our
relatives. In any case, we'd like to invite only
our parents and a couple very close friends. Afterward, we may host
a reception for those not invited to the wedding. How do
I announce the event? Is this rude to invite them to a reception and
not the wedding? I feel guilty about not having a bigger wedding
budget.
Thank
You.
Sincerely,
Empty
wallet
Dear
Empty Wallet,
This
isn't a destination wedding, but the rules are the same. Not all those invited to the reception must
be invited to the wedding. But all
wedding guests must be invited to the reception. This is because the wedding is a gift-giving event. You "reward"
your wedding guests with a party,
which is the reception, for which you cover all costs.
If
this is a small, informal reception, a handwritten letter informing guests
about the reception is fine. Mail these at least six weeks before your
event. In fact, if this is a very informal wedding—informal
attire and venue—you can invite by email or evite.
Your
moms, groom, and you could even do all the cooking and have an open
house type affair to keep the cost down. This can be quite
simple.
Note
No
potluck! Guests never provide the
party. Also, reception guests are not
expected to give gifts.
This
is an example of a traditional wedding reception invitation. You do
not need to word this as formally:
The pleasure of your company
is requested at the
wedding reception of
You
and
Mr. Groom
Date
Time
Location
Congratulations
and enjoy!
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
More
From The Polite One
No gifts for
our destination wedding.
Do we cover
our destination wedding guests’ cost?
When to
schedule a reception after our destination wedding?
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