May we wear shorts to a formal wedding in Kentucky?

Dear Polite One,

I'm attending a formal late afternoon family wedding/reception in the heat of Kentucky. I understand that the bridal party, including my sister – mother of the bride – will be in formal wear. She mentioned that the valets will be in black shorts. Considering the heat, would it be appropriate for my husband and me to wear shorts as well? We are in our late 50s.

Wearing shorts

Dear Wearing Shorts,

Given that the bridal party is dressed in formal attire you should too, especially since you are family. Of course, you don't have to dress as formally as they, but cocktail attire would be most appropriate. It wouldn't be polite or respectful to wear shorts. I'm sure you two can find cool cocktail attire that would be appropriate for a wedding.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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