To whom to give gifts?

Dear Polite One,

My sister is hosting a bridesmaid brunch the day of my rehearsal. Do I need to get her a thank you gift?

I've planned to give a corsage to my greeters. Is this their gift? Do I give gifts to all the parents or just the ones contributing?

Nov. Bride

Hello Nov. Bride,

Many couples are paying for their own weddings these days, so giving those who contribute a gift is a great idea. Perhaps a gift basket or a gift certificate to a nice restaurant would be a good gift for those who didn't contribute cash. A gift for your sister isn't necessary, but flowers and a thank you note is typical. Your greeters don't require gifts.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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