What is a Californian to wear to a wedding/reception in NY?

Dear Polite One,

I'm attending a Catholic wedding – mass at 10:30 followed by the wedding — in New York and reception are at a restored mansion at 5 pm. The wedding party will be formal dressed with men in tuxes. I have no idea what to wear since the wedding is so early and the reception is in the evening.

Visitor from Manhattan Beach, CA

Dear Visitor from Manhattan Beach, CA,

Since the tux shouldn't be worn before 5/6 pm we are not following tradition here, so we can take a few liberties—great for we Californians. Catholic weddings tend to be more formal so your material would have to look rich. So, the little black dress, or its equivalent, in quality material would work. Just pick out an outfit that looks special and expensive.

Please keep in mind that the ceremony is Catholic, so to be polite, your outfit will have to be conservative or have a jacket to cover your shoulders.

Sincerely,
The Polite One

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