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Is it proper to host a wedding in the US if married in the Bahamas?

bridal couple; destination wedding

Dear Polite One,

I recently married in the Bahamas with only 3 witnesses and no family. We want to host a simple ceremony and celebration once we arrive in the states.

We plan to include a flower girl and ring bearer and my parents walking me down the aisle.   

I understand that I shouldn't register or expect bridal showers, but many ask me where I'm registered and when I am having a shower. What should I do? For the reception, I want to have refreshments, dancing but no alcohol.  Is this proper manners?

Wants to share our joy

Dear Wants to Share Our Joy,

It isn't appropriate to host a second wedding or vow renewal.  It’s too soon after your first.  So, it is most appropriate to host a reception.   If you do host a vow renewal, there are no wedding elements, like attendants, including child attendants, and no one walks down the aisle with you.  You don't need an escort.  It is best if you and your husband walked in from the side of the aisle, or you walk alone.

Remind those who ask if you are registered and if you will have a shower that you are a married woman so it would not be proper for you. It would be very improper to expect gifts. If people want to give you gifts, they don't have to wait to be invited to anything.  They will send you what they want to give you.

A party/reception is perfect. But, because you do not want alcohol, it would be best to host this in the early afternoon or late morning when guests do not expect alcohol. Schedule this for a time your guests are not expecting a meal if you are not providing one. Other than that... party on!

Enjoy your celebration!

The Polite One

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