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Married Aunt and Uncle want cash for Vow Renewal honeymoon!

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Dear Polite One,

My Aunt and Uncle recently sent me an invitation to their vow renewal. Now call me sarcastic but I honestly think it is silly to do that on your fifteenth wedding anniversary, it seems to me a celebration of mediocrity.  

My sarcasm led to full-on mean-spiritedness when a little card fell out of the envelope that read, "In lieu of gifts, contributions to our honeymoon would be appreciated."

What planet are they from? How can this not be seen as full-on crass behavior? They are expecting gifts but would prefer cash, to go on a honeymoon, even though they have been married for fifteen years.

I am their niece, their junior by a whole generation and they want me to help pay for their honeymoon? I think this is rude and presumptuous. I don't want to even go. Am I too harsh?

Thank you,

Annoyed

Dear Annoyed,

Thank you!!! I have countless wives informing me how horrible I am because I write that they are not brides, their husbands are not grooms, and their vow renewal shouldn’t appear as a wedding. My attempts to inform couples of how this is perceived made little difference.  They still believe I am behind the times and out of touch. Your post may just help them all understand how inappropriate this really is. 

You are not too harsh.  Please feel free to save your cash. 

Thank you for sharing!

The Polite One

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