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Anti-Clueless Advice: 3 Most Asked Wedding Etiquette Questions Answered

Interviews With an Etiquette Consultant

Wedding season can mean excitement and anxiety for brides, grooms, and their families.   Since I’m an etiquette consultant, those mixed feelings typically result in an overflowing inbox of questions from all sides.  Typically, intense interest in a particular subject is newsworthy, which makes it a perfect topic for morning news segments.  This was the case recently as I visited two of our local stations to offer expert Wedding Etiquette 101 advice. 

The Q and A Session

This interview was a typical straightforward question and answer segment with three of my most asked questions.  (Video)

Question:

How do couples inform guests of their wedding website? 

Answer:

There can be a link on the “Save the Date” or newspaper announcement. Still, it should never be listed on wedding invitations, as these sites typically have gift registry information.  Speaking of gifts, registry information shouldn’t be listed on the first page of your wedding website.  However, a link to a registry page at the top or bottom of the front page is perfectly acceptable. 

Question:

As a guest, how do I know what to wear to a wedding?

Answer:

Play detective.  Discern the formality of the venue and time of day.  The paper used for the invitation may offer clues as well.  A formal wedding is typically indicated by using heavier paper and engraved printing for the invitation.  If after considering these hints you are still confused, call the bridal couple for help. 

Question:

Must I purchase a gift from a couple’s registry?

Answer:

No.  Gift a gift from your heart, something that reflects your relationship with the couple.

Next: Interview Two

Please Read

Wedding Invitations: Email, Response Card, Guest Issues

Nix Embarrassing Speeches & Rings All Around

Wedding Correspondence Q & A: Including Registry Info? 


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