Wedding Etiquette Attire Interview: What are Today's Taboos?

This was an enjoyable interview with the ever-effervescent Deirdre Fitzpatrick of KCRA Sacramento, CA. I lost count of how many interviews I’ve had with her but each time was a hoot. This was our typical, “Let’s wing it; what questions do you have for me today...” interview. Deirdre always appeared truly interested in etiquette and doing what is right.

Q. Let’s speak a little about the dress code. Can guests wear white or black to a wedding or is that still considered unacceptable?

A: Black is popular and appropriate at all times of the day and for all times of the year. In fact, some brides prefer their guests in black or at least both mothers, which wasn’t proper in the past. White is even acceptable these days with a caveat. The outfit must not resemble bride attire.

In fact, the only taboo color for guests to wear these days is red. Even so, the most egregious breach of dress code conduct we see today is the guest who wears flashy, revealing attire. All eyes are on the gaudy guest instead of the couple—extremely disrespectful. Many times, the abuser is viewed as an event herself. Very unfortunate.

Q: Is there anything that a bride should consider about her own attire especially if this is not her first marriage?

A: All brides should choose attire that is most appropriate for the formality of her wedding, the venue (church attire should be more conservative), and age.

A blusher veil is the only no-no for today’s encore bride. Additionally, if the bride has more than two weddings under her satin belt, it’s best she scales down the following weddings slightly to lessen wedding fatigue.

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