Top 5 Tips
Over
the top fantasy, fairytale weddings may be appealing in theory. But as the old
saying goes, “All that glitters is not gold.” Consider the wedding in the movie Father of the Bride. As the wedding fiasco was in full force, Dad,
Steve Martin, was embarrassed about the results. Yes, a gigantic public display of
over-indulgence can be cringe-worthy. One
must wonder what the wedding guests really thought about the wedding.
Considering
the popularity of wedding-reality shows, does this create a false narrative
that real-life might couple believe? Do
they consider their guests as they should?
Is it really "All about the couple"? And should bridal couples treat their wedding
day as an excuse to play dress up and treat their special guests as
minions?
Let's
put some real reality into wedding planning and rethink the current concept of
the princess-for-the-day syndrome. Most
importantly, let's try to remember that when we invite guests we are expected
to be hosts.
Guest Comfort is Key
If
possible, schedule the reception to directly follow the wedding. Guests shouldn't have to wait around
twiddling their thumbs between events.
Perhaps take most photos before the wedding. Alternately, provide wedding guests with an
activity or a hospitality room, in which to wait, if they are to wait more than
a couple of hours.
A
and B lists are tricky, best to avoid them.
Most on the B list realize they are the "back-up" guests and
are insulted.
Gifts Should Not be the Focus
Guests
shouldn't be invited merely to give an extravagant gift. When those we haven't seen in years or we
know won't attend are invited, it can appear as if we are only after the
obligatory gift. So, only invite those
who are close.
Register
for a variety of items in various price ranges: $5 >. But please don't treat the registry as a
dream wish list. You two can purchase
the big-ticket items. A riding lawn mower,
anyone?
Don't
post your wedding registry on the first page of your wedding website. Guests should have to search for it. These sites should focus on your love story.
Never
request cash! It appears greedy.
Choose a Formality Level & Stick to it
Venue,
attire and time of day will dictate formality.
So, if the budget only allows for a daytime wedding in the park, nix the
formal gown and tux. This bridal attire is
considered a faux pas and confusing to guests.
Guests
typically determine the formality of a wedding, specifically what they will
wear, by the formality of the invitation.
So, choose wedding invitations and wording that reflects this. Select
lightweight, simple font using informal language, for the informal affair. Heavyweight ivory, cream, or white paper,
engraved, third-person language using a traditional font screams formal
wedding.
Please
note that a tuxedo is considered formal evening attire.
Provide the Entire Party
Hosts
host, in a nutshell this means that the host provides the entire party: venue,
food, beverages, and entertainment.
After-parties for a select few is impolite, as is inviting some to the
meal portion of the reception and the remainder of the guests arrive for the
dance. Not nice. Guests know the difference and are insulted.
All
wedding guests are invited to the entire reception.
Thank Your Guests
Guests
attend weddings and receptions to support and share in the couple's special
moment. So, it is only polite for the couple to visit with each and every one
of them. Handshaking, elbow bumps, air
kisses, hugs, and lots of thanks should be flowing as freely as the Champagne.
And
don't forget those handwritten thank you notes for all gifts!
Please
Read
Bridal Shower
Q & A: Multiple Parties & What to Give?
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