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Four Tips for Planning Your Wedding

 Planning a perfect wedding

Wedding planning can seem like a complicated dance.  If we move too quickly without knowing the steps, we just may step on our partner’s toes.  There are many steps to learn in this dance.  So, get your dancing shoes on and I’ll help guide you through some of the more difficult steps.  

Dear Polite One,

My daughter is planning a destination wedding.  Our family will be extending our stay one week as a vacation. Will I need to pay for the groom, or should the groom's parents pay for his travel, hotel stay, and vacation package. 

Pay or No?

Dear Pay or No?

Parents are no longer financially obligated for their children’s weddings.  Children are more self-sufficient than in the past.  Consequently, the bride and groom are responsible for their wedding and travel-related costs.  Anything you choose to give them is a gift.  After all, if they are grown up enough to marry, shouldn’t they be able to pay for it? 

Sincerely,

The Polite One

Dear Polite One,

We are getting married soon and have a question about the father-daughter/mother-son dance.  My fiancé suggested that halfway through the dance we should change partners.  I would then dance with his father, while he dances with my mother.  I have a special song picked out for my father and I would want this special time with him.  Is there an alternative that would work with my fiancé's idea?

Dancing

Dear Dancing,

Typically, you would do exactly what your groom suggests.  However, you could ask your disk jockey to mix another song into your chosen song as a signal to change partners.  He/she should be able to do this easily.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

Dear Polite One,

I am planning a 2 pm wedding.  What is proper etiquette concerning the type of food to serve? Lunch, brunch, or will finger foods suffice?

Afternoon Wedding

Dear Afternoon Wedding,

As hosts, we always provide the food and beverages our guests would expect at the time of day we choose for our event.  So, finger foods will be fine.  Yours is an in-between meals reception.  So, guests shouldn't be expecting a full meal. 

Sincerely,

The Polite One

Enjoy the wedding planning process!

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