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Avoid Overspending!

Your wedding may be the most important event in your life, but please remember that you are marrying a person, not an event. You may be able to get everything looking perfect, but at what price? It may cost you the equivalent of the down payment on a house. A year's worth of investing. Or, perhaps your relationships with friends and family. 

Enjoy the day! Live and lighten up. It is the love you feel and share, not the money spent that is important.

How to invite guests to the wedding and not the reception?

Dear Polite One,

Our venue for the reception will only hold 120 people.  My guest list exceeds this greatly.  Is there a proper way to invite some people to the wedding but not the reception, and if so, how do you do that without offending anyone?   

Bride

Dear Bride, 

I’m sorry, but all wedding guests are invited to the entire reception because the wedding is a gift-giving event.  To invite some and not all is classifying some as not good enough to entertain.  It is best to scale down your guest list or choose a new venue. 

Sincerely, 

The Polite One

The One Rule Brides Should Follow

Dear Polite One,

As an experienced etiquette specialist is there one rule that a bride should never break?

Inquiring Mind

Dear Inquiring Mind,

Couples should never forget that they are hosts and their guests should be treated as honored guests.  Why invite guests to just treat them as if they should feel privileged to be there?  This is not logical or polite.  

Sincerely,

The Polite One

 

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