It
would seem that a wedding invitation is a simple piece of communication, but it
is far more. Because of that fact, there
is an endless list of questions couples have.
Here are three common situations with my solutions.
Dear
Polite One,
My
fiancé
and I are starting to plan our wedding. It is the second for both of us. We've discussed the guest list
and who would be our attendants. My
mother informed us that if we invite one family member, we must invite them
all. However, both my fiancé and I wish to invite only those family and
friends with whom we feel close. That would mean some aunts, uncles, and
cousins may not be invited.
Wants
Small Wedding
Dear
Wants Small Wedding
You
make the rules for the second wedding. You will be paying for this, as
most are for their firsts these days, and don’t have to invite anyone with whom
you are not close. So, invite the one and not worry about the
siblings.
Dear
Polite One,
I'm
not sure how to address the envelope when the wife is a Ph.D. (she is a
professor) and the husband does not have a title other than Mr. If she
were a medical doctor, I understand Mr. John and Dr. Jane Doe would be
appropriate, but for a doctor who is not an MD, how do you handle the
address?
Also, for others who are Ph.D. doctors is it appropriate to address them as such, or is Doctor on invitations reserved for medical doctors only?
Dr.,
Doctor, Ph.D.?
Dear Dr.,
Doctor, Ph.D.?
The Outer Envelope Could Be
Professor
Jane Doe, or Jane Doe, Ph.D.
Mr.
John Doe
Address
However,
if she uses the title Doctor, then you should use it on the outer envelope as:
Dr.
Jane and Mr. John Doe
On the Inner Envelope
Professor
Doe and Mr. Doe
Or,
Dr.
and Mr. Doe
Doctor
or Dr. has been reserved for medical doctors in correspondence
until very recently. Now it is appropriate to use Dr. for all who have a
Ph.D.
Dear
Polite One,
Since my husband and I are paying for our daughter’s wedding, must we
list his parents on the wedding invitations? The invitations are computer
generated and will just about hold the info need.
Too
Much Info
Dear
Too Much Info
Traditionally,
his parents do not need to be included on the invitation. They may be
included, but it is not necessary. If they are contributing for the
reception or more than is traditionally expected, including them is a nice
gesture.
If
this is a formal wedding, the invitations should be engraved or printed by a
professional. Other than that, the computer-generated should be
fine. However, please do not computer
generate the thank you notes or letters. These should be handwritten.
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