What to Wear: Outdoor Wedding in Alberta

Dear Polite One,

I am a bit confused as to what to wear for an outdoor wedding in the early afternoon in October, in Alberta. The groom is wearing a kilt and the best man (my other brother) is wearing a suit. The matron of honor is wearing a silk dress but am not sure of the length.

There will be a piper, but no minister. My husband, siblings with spouses, and I are also invited to a dinner the night before, and for two breakfasts the day of the wedding at the Lodge.

It is a very small wedding and I think it is casual, but have I never been to a weekend wedding before. My brother is a man of few words, and it is important to him that we get it right, but he's not very helpful. This may be because the bride and her very proper mother are doing most of the planning. Thanks for any advice you can give.

Wedding in Alberta

Dear Wedding in Alberta,

I would dress as if I was going to a nice country club for lunch. So, it would probably be best to dress in a genuinely nice dress or pantsuit and your husband in a suit.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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