Menacing Sisters Refuse Bride’s Chosen Colors

Hi Polite One,

My sisters are making my wedding planning difficult for me. They refuse to wear the purple color or any my other preferences, like periwinkle. They want to choose their own color such as black. In fact, my older sister told me that the bride does not pick the color of the bridal party. That’s just absurd. No?

Thank you,

Fed Up

Dear Fed Up,

This is a wonderful example of why including sisters may not be a great idea. All the sibling rivalries are included. So, you can just let them know that if they would rather not be involved in your wedding, you will understand. But, if they wish to be, they will behave.

The bride chooses her colors and dresses. If they don’t believe you, send them to me.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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