Dear
Polite One,
I
am the mother of the bride and would like to know if the mothers can skip walking
down the aisle?
Our
children
are planning a small wedding for 130 in a sweet chapel. My parents are divorced
and DO NOT get along. So, we would like
to figure out a way
so that we may all be seated without being taken down the aisle. Then, couldn’t we mothers and fathers stand up
at some point when the music starts to light a unity candle? Afterward, my husband would walk back to be
with our daughter.
Our
children don’t really care about doing things the way “everyone” else does.
Does this sound ok with you? We want this to be ALL about the kids. Everyone invited knows we’re the mothers.
Linda
Dear
Linda,
Sure,
any of these traditions
can be changed. You can seat yourself
anytime you wish. All four parents can
light the candle at any time. Typically,
though, this is part of the ceremony.
Your husband could walk your daughter down the aisle and sit. Then at some time during the ceremony, the
officiate could ask all of you to join the couple in lighting the unity
candle.
Or
he could walk her down the aisle, give her hand to her groom, escort you from
your seat to the candles, the groom's parents now stand and do the same. Each couple represents one united
person and light one candle each—two candles total. The couple then picks up the two candles and
lights one together representing a united couple. Then the ceremony can begin. I've seen this done a few times as well.
So,
you do have options. Best yet, you can
create your own version.
Now,
if you want to avoid walking down the aisle just because of your parents, they
don't have to be a part of the equation.
The grandmothers can be seated early, very early, then the groom's
mother with you last. This could solve
your problem.
Sincerely,
The
Polite One
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