How to Dress for Formal Wedding in New York?

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Dear Polite One,

My significant other is the father of the bride. The bride and most of his family live in New York and we live in California. He has been staying near his daughter for a few months now on business. I understand that weddings are more formal in there than here in most of California. Any ideas of what to wear to a daytime formal wedding in a church? He will be wearing a stroller.

Casual in CA

Dear Casual in CA,

The positive here is that you don't have to worry too much. Your significant other is going to have more on his mind than your dress. Father of the bride? Now, that is pressure.

Having said that, his family will notice. So, it is vital that your attire be respectful and conservative. Also, it may be best to ask your significant other to ask the mother of the bride what she is wearing so you dress less formally than her. Let him know that you don't consider yourself one of the mothers, but just want to show your respect for those who are—major plus points in your favor.

A semi-formal street-length/tea-length dress with no embellishments would be best. Steer clear of bright colors, especially red.

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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