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Wedding renewal after a long separation?

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Hi Polite One,

My husband and I were married for 11 years, separated for three years, and are now back together.   We would like to host a vow renewal since we were never divorced.   Would it appear proper or strange for our guests? Ours would be a simple renewal at the church with our children standing with us and family and a couple friends as guests.  Our attire would be simple, but appropriate--no wedding attire.  No attendants of course.  Maybe a candle to light with a couple flower arrangements at the church.  We would host a BBQ-type reception at our home. May we have a "wedding" cake and maybe a small thank you favor for people to take home?

Blessed

Dear Blessed,

This is a perfect reason to host a vow renewal.  The ceremony and reception you describe sound great, especially since you aren't inviting many guests.  Your attire is fine.  The "wedding cake" might not be a good idea.  Still, just include writing on the cake, and you are set.  

Congratulations!  

Sincerely,

The Polite One

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